I can't believe we made it! 10 years! Whoa! It's been an eventful 10 years - 2 houses, 2 dogs, and 3 kids later, here we are. What a ride! So how do we celebrate the big day - with a trip to the Broncos Summer Scrimmage. Of course, we couldn't forget our amazing trip to Costa Rica earlier in the summer. As I reflect over the past 10 years, some advice I would give for making a marriage work, or at least what makes ours work:
1. Don't rush! You have plenty of time to grow up. Steve and I both now say, "What the hell were we thinking getting married so young?" Of course it all worked out, but now I realize there's so much time to grow up - to live in the burbs and have kids. So enjoy being young (even if you're married), live in the city, live in a different country, get a little crazy. The rest can wait! *Our girls will be hearing this one for a long time! No weddings before age 28!
2. Find stuff to do together. Steve and I love doing outdoor stuff, running, biking, playing and watching sports, and traveling. It's important to be able to identify yourself outside your kids and all their activities. Do these activities as a family, but make time to just do them together kid-free. Our new favorite activity is getting a babysitter and going for a nice jog together - something we used to be able to do nightly!
3. Find some awesome "couples friends". We have an amazing core group of friends that we can just have a great time and unwind. Plus, it's motivation to stay married, because if you divorce, who gets the friends? (I already called it!)
4. Get out without each other. We support each other getting out for a night out with the ladies or a guys' bachelor party weekend whenever we get the chance. (Although it seems like Steve is getting many more getaways - working on changing that). It's imperative to have a support system of girlfriends/buddies to confide in (especially ones that don't judge when we just want to bitch about our spouses).
5. Have a good support system. We're lucky to have an amazing family who supports us and is always there to help when we need it - whether it's babysitting or helping with house jobs it relieves some stress, so we don't kill each other.
Maybe in another 10 years my advice will be different - we'll have teenage girls.....yikes!
In Costa Rica when we told people we were celebrating our 10th anniversary they thought we must've gotten married as teenagers. When I see these pictures it makes me feel like I was a teenager. Wow!
Love you babe and look forward to many more grey hairs together!
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